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Archive for July, 2005

Re: Oh How Nearly You’re Missed

July 28th, 2005 : No Comments »

Dear C,

Oh sure, it’s all sweetness and light in the beginning, but I think we both know that the mother-in-law is always greener on the other side of the fence.  As a matter-of-fact, dear C, I fear that you and I would quickly find fault with Mother Theresa, if we had happened to marry her secret love-child with the Pope….all that time spent caring for the poor, instead of her grandchildren, not to mention her insufferable martyr complex.  Secretly, you and I would both know she only did it so that she could hang out with Princess Di and Bono, and that under all those white robes she wears, she was actually kind of fat.  No doubt, the oldballandchain/hubby (the two are basically interchangeable, right?) would also get an earful each night about how we were the true saints around here, the way we had to put up with all her nauseating piousness, not to mention her far from perfect son, but no-one gave us any awards or sympathy did they?

Thinking about all this, dear C, the true miracle is that anyone agreed to marry us in the first place, don’t you agree?  All I can hope is that when push comes to shove, as it probably will one of these days, there will still be at least someone in my life who understands – you.  I hope you’re prepared.

And now, if you’ll excuse me, I need to go and say a few mea culpas.

Faithfully,

P.

Posted in Family Values

Thank Heavens for Teenage Girls

July 26th, 2005 : No Comments »

Dear C,

Well, I thought the celebrated British stiff upper lip might finally be wobbling, after a second round of terrorist attacks in London.  What I had not reckoned on, however, was the ability of the average British teenager to thumb her nose at fear and concentrate on the truly important stuff in life.  I am speaking, dear C, of my friend’s fifteen year old daughter, whose response, yesterday, to the hurried evacuation of the art gallery we were visiting was to throw a tantrum worthy of a two year old upon discovering she had left her mobile phone inside.  Alas, her remonstrations to the armed police securing the area fell on deaf ears, as they apparently failed to appreciate the toll this loss would take on our precious teenager’s social life.  Her mother, unfortunately, proved a much softer target, being forced to provide assurances that a new pink phone would be purchased immediately, along with a written apology for having apparently distracted said daughter into mislaying the phone in the first place.

I only hope that you and I can prove as focused, when the inevitable happens and you and I find ourselves staring down danger back in DC.  Will we cut and run, do you think, dear C, or will we calmly return to wrestling with the other ladies in the sales bins at Neiman-Marcus, only to emerge, triumphant, with our bargain basement finds in hand?

Faithfully,

P.

Posted in Politics and Propane

Re: Thank Heavens for Teenage Girls

July 26th, 2005 : No Comments »

P,

As one who was just today called a witch with a capital "B" by my not quite eleven year old son, I used to be one of those parents who thought it just couldn’t happen to them.  Oh dearest P, each time I think this parenting thing must ease up, as the cherubs should know mother cannot support another furrow in her brow, they strike out again and force me to continue my own little war on terror.

I had supposed that living in a state of constant fear might give the cherubs another target for their "affections" and allow their mother to live in peace.  Your friend’s experience makes clear that is just another hopeless fantasy.  It does occur to me, after all, that I still occasionally exhibit behaviors similar to the fifteen year old with my own mother.  Dearest P, I’m afraid, like the rest of the world, we are forced to fight our own personal war on terror for the rest of our lives.   

Would love to continue our engaging dialogue but am plotting my own retaliation against eldest.  Then have the conference call with Tony Blair to share newest ideas.  As we have common goals of destruction of will and containment, it should be productive. 

Faithfully,

C.   

Posted in Politics and Propane

That Kind of Mother

July 24th, 2005 : No Comments »

Dearest P,

In the time you’ve been away, a startling development has occurred in our little village.  Seems I’m suddenly the popular mom in the neighborhood.  As you can imagine, I clearly do not want to suggest your presence in any way inhibited my previous status, but it seems now all the kids want to be here. 

Sure, the pool helps, as does having four sweet young niblets ever ready for a play date, but I’m certain it’s really more than that.  I was at first convinced it was the presence of many non-organic, fully sugared snacks which drew the masses, but dare I say it may also be the lack of an enforced reading period which makes our house so inviting. 

Of course I tell the DC parents all about the educational enrichment that occurs while the children are here (they just don’t know how much Sponge Bob figures into that enrichment).  I also make certain they know SAT prep is always a part of a more than one hour long engagement.  Recently, for example, I told the children to avoid a hangover on the day of the SATs.  It really did hurt my score and I let them know that.  Seems to have all worked out in the end, however, as Duke was a much better fit than Harvard.  Important lessons to be learned here indeed.

Lest you worry that I’ve taken the train to Stepford, you must know that it’s all possible only b/c we’ve moved cocktail hour here to London time.  Noon just can’t come quickly enough.

Faithfully,

C.

Posted in Motherz in the Hood

Re: That Kind of Mother

July 24th, 2005 : No Comments »

Dear C,

Do you think Cosmos might be the answer to everything?  Certainly, you and I have benefited from the ‘lift’ they provide, whether contemplating the next terrorist outrage (thank you, by the way, for offering to dispose of my most egregious outfits discreetly, in the event I expire while here in London), improving my tennis game, or ‘supervising’ our children as they frolic in the park (the Starbucks coffee mugs, by the way, were inspired).  My one regret is that you should have so brilliantly found the solution to the thorny problem of cocktail hour coming so late in the day in my absence.  All I can say is that I salute your global approach to this tricky issue by raising my glass to you now, here in England, where it may still only be eleven am, but in India, it’s a safe six pm.

Cheers,

P.

Posted in Motherz in the Hood